It’s Harry Potter / a Minion / the kid from Jerry Maguire / the girl from Little Miss Sunshine / a mad scientist / the professor!.Again, surely you were raised better than that. And besides, glasses have a magical ability to help our kids see better, but they don’t have any ability to change our child’s intelligence (not that our kids would need it). See below about some ways that are helpful in talking about the glasses.Īgain, this sounds like our children don’t look smart without glasses. Plus, this comment is so common that it starts to feel like the glasses are the defining characteristic of our child. This seems like a nice thing to say, and yes, it’s true, our kids do look cute in their glasses, but it makes it sound like they wouldn’t look cute without their glasses, and that’s simply not true. I’m sure you were raised better than that. Just pointing or staring or making mocking gestures about the glasses.They’re helping them to see, they don’t need pity. Glasses can be difficult, and bad vision is nothing to sneeze at, but the glasses are correcting our children’s vision. The glasses are there to help our child’s vision develop correctly. Any nonsense about glasses hurting the child’s vision, or questioning whether the eye doctor got things wrong.Īgain, no one puts glasses on our children without good reason.You could ask why the child needs glasses, without using the term “wrong” if it’s something that you really want to know. It’s a pretty good bet that they’re wearing glasses either because their vision needs correcting or because they need eye protection particularly. While it’s totally reasonable to wonder why a child is wearing glasses, asking what’s “wrong” with them is really hurtful. “What’s wrong with your child?” or “What’s wrong with her eyes?“.Yes, our children look very cute in them, but believe us when we say that we would not spend the money and effort to get our child to wear these if they weren’t needed. It’s such a silly question, and yet it’s one of the most common questions that parents of a young child in glasses get. Yes, they’re real…and with them, my vision is spectacular! But I’ve come to the realization that sometimes, you see this little one in glasses and you just have to say something. Having someone point out the glasses may remind the child that the glasses are there, leading to more struggles to keep them on. A lot of times parents get them to wear their glasses by distracting them with an interesting trip out and about. It can be really hard when a child is first starting to wear glasses, even when they’re too young to care what anyone thinks. Oh, and there’s nothing wrong with saying nothing about the glasses. All the examples below are comments that we’ve gotten personally, or ones I’ve heard about through this blog and the facebook group. Still, I expect there’s some general guidelines we could pull together. Different people (kids and parents alike) are sensitive to different types of comments, what one person finds funny might really upset someone else. Now, I’m sure there’s going to be some disagreement on some of these things. And that, of course, led to me thinking about the things not to say. I got some great suggestions and I’ve updated this in response.Īs I was reading through the comments on my last post (asking for favorite comments about your child in glasses), it got me thinking about the good things to say to young kids in glasses, and to their parents. Update : Thank you for all the great responses.
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